Obedience

A few weeks ago, I was at Wal-Mart.  I got in line at the McDonald's at the front of the store for a drink.  A woman got in line behind me and we struck up a conversation.  She was an employee at Wal-Mart, which was one of her two jobs.  She told me she has 9 children, the youngest being 2 months old.  She didn't look much older than me.  She told me how much she loved them and how hard she was working to provide for them.  Her cell phone rang and she answered.  I heard God tell me to buy her meal or whatever she wanted. My turn came next in the line, so I ordered my drink and turned around to ask her what she wanted, but she was still on the phone, so I didn't do it.  I stepped to the side to wait for my drink and watched her pause her conversation and order a small coffee.  It was $1.08.  She began searching all of her pockets and looking around on the floor as if she had dropped some money.  I started toward the cashier, but the man behind her offered up a dollar and it was done.  My heart sank.  I knew beyond a shadow of a doubt that God had asked me to pay for that and I didn't do it.  I'll never know for sure, but I don't think there was ever a dollar in her pocket.  I think God wanted to show her He cared without her having to pretend anything.  I'm the one who missed out. God didn't need me. He used the man behind her to take care of it.  But God meant it for me.  

This incident coincides with a lot of things Matt and I have been hearing God tell us about obedience lately.    If you know us well, you've probably heard us at some point in our married life talk about adoption.  This topic goes back a LONG way for us, since before we were even married.  We have always known that God has called us to it.  We were sure about it even before we had children of our own.  The road to where we are at now was a long one.  I cannot take you all the way through it in this post.  You can read about it here if you want.  For the purposes of this post, I am going to attempt to cut to the chase and tell you where we are at right now.

We are working with an adoption agency called New Life Pregnancy Center.  We've been talking with them for a few months.  We had an initial meeting with them in November, and then in January, we told them that we were sure God was leading us to adopt through them, but wanted to wait until October of this year to begin the process.  Our 3 main reasons for this were: 1. Gracie is still so little  2. My precious sister and her husband are having their first son in May, AND  3. We needed time to organize, raise funds, plan, etc. to make this adoption possible.  (I laugh when I read that last sentence now....as if WE could ever really make an adoption possible.)  They responded that they completely understood, but that they felt they might need adoptive families sooner.  They asked if they could call us if this situation arose.  We somewhat reluctantly said yes, we would pray and consider stepping up our timetable if a situation arose, but October was still where we were leaning.

So, since then, we have been reading, planning, and working on lots of paperwork.  Our homestudy was scheduled to begin in April.  We were feeling good.  In control.  That should have been our first clue....

Then, on Saturday, March 9th, we got an email from New Life saying that they have birthmothers who are considering adoption.  Would we consider stepping up our timetable?

Talk about a FREAK OUT.

Here are some things I read and that were said to me in the days leading up to this email.  I've already told you about my Wal-Mart lesson.  God has been speaking and at some points, almost shouting at me.

From Job 38. "Where were you when I laid the earth's foundation?  Tell me, if you understand.  Who marked off its dimensions?  Surely you know!" (verses 4-5)  "Can you raise your voice to the clouds and cover yourself with a flood of water?  Do you send the lightning bolts on their way?  Do they report to you, 'Here we are'?  Who endowed the heart with wisdom or gave understanding to the mind?" (verses 34-36)

From my son, Gray, as we lay in his bed one night, out of nowhere as he drifted off to sleep, "Mommy, God has everything in the whole world under control."  Gray, who told you that?  "No one. I just know it."

From a dear friend, Psalm 140:12 "I know that the Lord secures justice for the poor and upholds the cause of the needy."

From Psalm 139: 16 "All the days ordained for me were written in your book before one of them came to be."

From Proverbs 16:9 "In his heart a man plans his course, but the Lord determines his steps."

From Psalm 127:1 "Unless the Lord builds the house, its builders labor in vain."

From my mom (said in the most encouraging and supportive way): "I think God is looking for a willing and obedient heart, not your timetable."  Thanks, Mom.  :)  My mom is awesome.

From my sister and her husband: "God is moving. His timing is perfect."

From Gray as I told him a little about these mommies and babies and how we may bring a baby into our family: "Why just one baby, mommy?"  :)

I could go on, but the point is, God is moving us forward. This was not our timetable or our plan, but Gray and Gracie didn't happen in the timing we "planned" either.  Ha!  With all our hearts, we want to be obedient.  So, we're following where He leads and asking Him to help us walk through His open doors and to shut doors when it's not His plan or His way.

Over the course of 8 days, we completed our home study from start to finish.  That is not normal.  A home study at our agency is a series of interviews with the agency, an environmental inspection of our home, a fire inspection of our home, CPR training, fingerprinting, creating profile pages (pictures) of our family, writing Dear Birthmother letters and autobiographies, creating a video of our home and family, and a final home visit with the director of the agency.  Not to mention all the cleaning and organizing done to a home when all of these people are coming to "judge" it!!!  All of this was accomplished from Monday, March 18th through Monday, March 25th.  During that week, Matt continued working, I continued tutoring, we continued caring for our children (of course!), we traveled to Austin and back for our niece's birthday, and Gracie cut 3 molars and an incisor, so sleep was not exactly happening.  So, there is no explanation for a home study being completed except GOD.  We could have never done all of that in our own strength.  It's really all a blur to me.  I just know He provided every single step of the way, giving us strength and energy that was not our own.

So, now that our home study is complete, birthmothers will begin to view our profile.  If we are chosen, we will get a call and be able to meet with her.  If not, our profile will go to the birthmother who is due next, and so on.  Honestly, it's kind of a weird place to be.  Like we could get a baby next month or in many months.  There's really no way to make a true plan.  That works so hard against my personality.  But, for whatever reason, God saw fit to rush our home study.  So, now we are ready, and we wait and see who this little person is that God has been speaking to us about for so many years.

We are thrilled, ecstatic, a little terrified, and thankful that God has brought us here.  We look at each other all the time and say, "This is crazy," but we know for certain we are exactly where God wants us, and that's enough for us right now.  When we look at our almost 10 years of marriage, all we can think is just how FAITHFUL God has been to us.  So, we'll just wait right here until He makes His next move.   

We felt this blog would be important because obviously, there will be a new little face in our family pictures soon, and you might wonder where they came from.  It will also serve as a record of our journey to him or her.  Hopefully, it will encourage others as so many adoption blogs have done for us.  And MOST importantly, we pray it will be a testament to our God who adopted us, who redeemed us, who sets the lonely in families, and who provides all we need and more for the praise of His glory.

If you want to know more about our agency, click the New Life tab at the top.  If you want to know a little more about our specific adoption, click FAQ.  If you want to support us, click The Missing Piece at the top or to the right.  We welcome your questions and comments and covet your prayers.  Thank you so much for reading this.

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